When someone asks you to tell them about yourself, do you start with the good or bad first?
I start with the bad. My brain goes to the “bad” first. What about yours?
Like really, if I don’t put any though into it, my default is negativity. I automatically believe the worst in a person before they even have an opportunity to prove differently. I automatically believe projects are going to fail, I am going to lose my job, I am going to end up homeless and on the street. Even though everything points to make those statements false. Because I don’t take time to challenge those thoughts, I let them take me down a path of negativity.
When this happens, my mind creates stories that I feel like I have to work through. And when people look at me and challenge my thought process, until I believe the truth , it is hard to see it as truth. Does anyone else find themselves in this situation ?
There is a difference between hard things, and things that we are making hard.
Both situations need to be worked through, both are or can be painful. But here is the blunt truth:
In one situation, our choice to dwell has led us to far more suffering than if we would work through it, make changes necessary and move forward.
Where do you find yourself?
If you are unsure, here are a few things that might help you become aware.
Ask your peers, trusted friends , and those you are comfortable with, how they experience you when you are around . Those who will be honest.
Write down your first thought that comes up about how your day has gone and keep a journal for about a week and see where your mind has gone.
Read your Facebook posts. Those are really telling.
Wherever you are is okay. Just make the change and move forward. Have compassion for yourself in the process.
Pity parties are way less fun than celebration parties.
Maybe.
Be encouraged ,
Rachael
Accepting The Peace 