As much as people are awesome and interesting. They irritate us too.

It’s a perspective thing , I get that.

Here is the deal: We all screw up sometimes.

All of us. No one is exempt.

We can get into a debate of whose right .., whose less right … and what’s up for debate and what’s not. But we’d all be chasing our tails.

I wrote a blog about sharing with safe people.

So whose safe? Are you safe?

It’s important that we take inventory of our relationships. But even more: our role in relationships.

I lived life for a very long time giving parts of my life, my story, and journey to people who were not safe, but I was so desperate for connection that I became deceived .

Safe people honor where you are: Often, in our own journeys – we get judgmental of those around us. You know.

• Because I’m trying not to be or do something, then everyone around me becomes highlighted in my mind as bad because they do or say said thing.
• Because I have seen the light- Soto speak- I am obviously In a better place than other people.

The person who honors says: hey, yes I see you. And because I love you, I’m going to tell you what I see. But I love you and I’m not leaving you.

 

Safe people don’t tell you what you want to hear: Bless those people who are willing and able to tell you you smell bad and need a shower . Trust me, it’s less embarrassing to go take a shower than it is to be oblivious to the fact you smell bad. But still- the safe people haven’t left you. And still love you.

 

 

Safe people own their part: The safe person is quick to say , man I messed up, let’s figure this out together.

Safe People stick by you: In all of this is a core foundation that , I will always be here. When needed, I will set boundaries, but you will always be valued loved and accepted by me.

Where do you fall as a friend in your relationships? Are you safe?

Where do your friends fall? Are you safe to share with them ? Are they safe to share with you?

Have you asked?

Be encouraged,

Rachael