As much as people are awesome and interesting. They irritate us too.
It’s a perspective thing , I get that.
Here is the deal: We all screw up sometimes.
All of us. No one is exempt.
We can get into a debate of whose right .., whose less right … and what’s up for debate and what’s not. But we’d all be chasing our tails.
I wrote a blog about sharing with safe people.
So whose safe? Are you safe?
It’s important that we take inventory of our relationships. But even more: our role in relationships.
I lived life for a very long time giving parts of my life, my story, and journey to people who were not safe, but I was so desperate for connection that I became deceived .
Safe people honor where you are: Often, in our own journeys – we get judgmental of those around us. You know.
- Because I’m trying not to be or do something, then everyone around me becomes highlighted in my mind as bad because they do or say said thing.
- Because I have seen the light- Soto speak- I am obviously In a better place than other people.
The person who honors says: hey, yes I see you. And because I love you, I’m going to tell you what I see. But I love you and I’m not leaving you.
Safe people don’t tell you what you want to hear: Bless those people who are willing and able to tell you you smell bad and need a shower . Trust me, it’s less embarrassing to go take a shower than it is to be oblivious to the fact you smell bad. But still- the safe people haven’t left you. And still love you.
Safe people own their part: The safe person is quick to say , man I messed up, let’s figure this out together.
Safe People stick by you: In all of this is a core foundation that , I will always be here. When needed, I will set boundaries, but you will always be valued loved and accepted by me.
Where do you fall as a friend in your relationships? Are you safe?
Where do your friends fall? Are you safe to share with them ? Are they safe to share with you?
Have you asked?
Be encouraged,
Rachael