I am not one to take risks, I think we have established this. But I am not just talking about bending rules, going on spontaneous outings, or doing something out of the ordinary. This happens in my social relationships as well.
Brene Brown is a phenomenal author, who has written many great books that have brought a lot of freedom in my life. She is a shame researcher, and studies how shame impacts our lives and how the antidote to this is vulnerability. In her book, Daring Greatly, she describes what vulnerability feels like, looks like and the healthy way to be so. The previous blog I wrote was about breakthroughs and how sometimes we have road blocks to freedom. Let me be real honest. Vulnerability is a huge road block for me right now. It has been for a good while now. I have gotten to the place where, I know the difference between safe and unsafe people to be vulnerable with. But the pain that I experienced by being vulnerable with the wrong people is all I can see right now. And that is okay.
Friend, it is okay to feel. It is okay because feelings indicate within us that something is off, not right. However, they also lie. A sweet friend of mine posted this on my Facebook recently.
Feelings are a great indicator but a terrible master.
This is so true. We are taught to trust our gut. I believe this is where that comes from, that and the holy spirit uses those feelings to speak to us. But we must be diligent to understand if those feelings are coming from a place of pain, or a place of empowerment. And the thing is, to understand this, we must be vulnerable. Which is stupid . See, but its not actually stupid, it makes me uncomfortable, therefore, anything that makes me uncomfortable is stupid. This is where I am at. And that is okay. I am working through this. The problem we run into is if we allow the feelings inside us to lead us in a direction that we were not meant to go in. I can feel like things that are uncomfortable are stupid right now. But Freedom will come from it. And , when I allow myself, that freedom will come through daring to be vulnerable. Resistance is my friend right now, but this will change.
Check these out too.
Brene Brown – Ted talk on Vulnerability
Brene Brown – Listening to shame
What are you resisting?
Who can you dare to be vulnerable with?
Be encouraged Friends
Rachael
Accepting The Peace 